Welcome to WomynWise Speaks…come on in, let’s talk

Warm Greetings to you, warmest of welcomes to this space where I speak my heart and invite you to speak your own.  My wish is to discuss topics on empowered birth, babies, breastfeeding, wellness, healing and natural family living.  I’m energized and so hopeful in creating this space where journeys are beginning or already underway, along sometimes-wild paths to wholeness, confidence, renewed vision and refreshed spirits as we travel. 

I have given birth 6 times: 5 times at home, 3 of those births unassisted by a birth professional, and once by cesarean.  Through my births I experienced the further opening of my heart and my deepening sense of the power that can move through me, to more responsively serve my children, myself and our world.  My powerful, self-chosen experiences of birth helped make me a protective mama-bear, gave me a hunger  to learn how to nurture and heal my children, and brought me an enduring commitment to my kids even when life—and parenting—is not so much fun.  I have witnessed this too, in being with other families during their empowered births; they speak of that same heart expansion and the deepening of their power, joy and responsibility.  I have seen how this helps them to become lovingly-attached, responsive parents and more engaged citizens in their world.  People who have powerful, positive birth experiences most often emerge feeling more whole and more able; they are changed, they have grown—as we must, to become good-enough parents.  And I have sadly seen families torn to the heart by the cold and even cruelly imposed control over their minds and bodies during managed birth.  I have seen women feeling despair following traumatic birth—at times even following ‘normal birth’ in a managed setting.  They may carry enormous burdens in entering, or expanding, their family-making: feeling not more whole and able after birth—but somehow broken and even powerless.

Being a good-enough parent requires a lot of heart, strength, knowledge, and humility as well as confidence in one’s ability to nurture, guide, and protect children.  Empowered birth first supports our immediate, secure attachment with our babies–the bonding they need to survive, and we need to grow into parenting.  Empowered birth also nurtures our trust in the natural design of our bodies, and our innate ability to work with that design toward safe birth and good health; it can promote our trust in becoming loving and wise-enough authorities in our children’s lives.  That empowerment and trust are naturally-supported elements inherent to our biochemical and psychological natures as a species, and are essential to creating happier, healthier children, families– and nations.  It helps initiate them into parenthood (or into their next stage of family-making) in ways that birth’s design is uniquely able to serve: into a deeper sense of personal power and self-responsibility, a greater capacity to love and respond, an enhanced sense of wholeness and being able, that can serve joy and the energy needed for raising kids. 

I’m passionate about homebirth, and natural birth in any setting: while we may never fully understand birth’s complexities, we know enough now to have strong reasons to deeply respect its design–and to have great caution about interfering with it.  Even more, I’m passionate about women’s and families’ right to choose– to freely choose, in full knowledge and naturally holding decision-making power.  I have experienced and witnessed the dawning of love and deepening of personal power that can result from empowered birth–in various settings according to women’s own preferences, and in each family’s chosen terms.  Potentially, any setting is where a woman is able to create the best support for her unique work; where a family can enact self-empowered choice, and cultivate providers’ respect for the family’s authority in their own care.  Whatever the variables birth brings us, what remains constant is this:  in women finding support in their own terms, and in families being able to rely upon respect for their authority in decision-making, empowered births can happen—and able, confident-enough parents receive gifts that help them carry on well with family-making.

In support of healthy, empowered birth, accomplished through families’ informed choices; toward lovingly attached, confident- and wise-enough parents; to grow happier, healthier families and nations…this is why I am here.  “Peace on Earth Begins with Birth”: when we women fully honor ourselves and our sacred work of babymaking, and when we families claim our inalienable right as the first authority in our care, we can make wise choices and receive respect from care providers as well.  From this beginning, babies can be born and greeted with a peace that flows onward through their lives.  This cannot be given to us by others, we must choose to create it for ourselves.  I am womynwise, and invite your womynwise, family-wise selves to join me in this act of creation.